Slices of Happiness - March 2015
I’ve learned a lot about myself in the past few months and lately I have realised importance of making yourself happy, because you are solely responsible for that.
Any extension of yourself, whether it be a child, a partner, a best friend, a parent, should add an enormous amount to your own inner happiness and peace; but not define it and certainly not compromise it. It is a constant game of tug-of-war, to remember to maintain your own wellbeing without of relying on others to provide that sense of happiness, validation, security and love or to constantly put others needs before your own.
Especially in matters of the heart; putting people you love above your own best interests, even sacrificing your emotional and physical well-being is a slippery slope that can continue on and on unless you recognise and reach a state of equilibrium; love equilibrium. Sometimes you don’t even realise how long it has gone on or the effects that self-sacrifice actually have on you until you are already in so deep that it seems nearly impossible to return that energy to yourself. But how many of us have been there? And how many of us realise that we need to spend more time doing the things we love, explore our passions and experience life to the fullest potential?
I’m not suggesting that we shouldn’t put others first sometimes, but when it’s all the time and not reciprocated, that’s when it becomes damaging. Some of the best joys you get out of life are sharing your life with others and experiencing the love they have to offer and learning about the love that you yourself can give. I absolutely believe that finding a person that makes you feel complete is just about the greatest feeling in the universe and you should fight to the ends of the Earth to keep them in your life. True, unconditional love is a rare and beautiful thing – the spark you feel in the beginning, that fire? You have to maintain it like anything else, and that can be challenging, scary and leave you vunerable, but it’s the only way to have a love that lasts a lifetime, and it is absolutely worth it.
Just make sure to make time for you because no matter what happens, you have to spend the rest of your life with yourself, so you best find ways to enjoy that time you have with you. There is no algorithm for happiness, no right way, no map drawn out, it’s a constant treasure hunt and we find little clues along the way, little insights into our own souls.
My slices of El time, things that make me happy? Taking photos, watching the sun rise or set, long walks, cooking, laying on the beach with a good book, creativity, endless adventures. The rest of my world is made up of the people who mean the most to me and who I love very dearly; the precious relationships that I hold so close to my heart. And of course my gorgeous cat Andy.